You would have loved the soup I made tonight. It was flavored with thyme, rosemary, and parsnips.
I think of you when I pour myself a drink. I think, “a little drinkypoo,” or, “some tipple” and sometimes, “don’t give it anything to live on.” I think it’s maybe notsogood that I think of you at these times, that maybe you were more a cautionary tale or whatnot, but nonetheless.
Ethan and me have freckles. Just us three: you, me, and he. Did you know that?
I love ginger and dill. Silly thing, right? But the other night Robbie was over for dinner and he was eating my coleslaw, and he said, “I love the dill in this. I had to take a break from dill for a while because dad was always using dill and I got tired of it. Dill and ginger — in everything. Dad couldn’t get enough dill and ginger.” And I had another one of those tiny, horrible funerals that I have to have as time goes by. It’s just another way we’re so much alike, and we never knew, we just love dill and ginger. Just some sort of genetic similarity, no big deal, but then you’re gone and it’s just one more thing we didn’t share, all our dill and ginger recipes.
Osaka has housemade ginger ice cream. It’s fabulous, with chunks of crystalized ginger. You would have loved it.
Hey, Dad, another thing? I got a problem with dead guys. And now you’re one of them, which sucks for both of us. It seems I have this thing with unfinished business: I hate it. And now you’re gone so we’re working our problems out in a really one-sided way.
Remember when you told me you were so proud of me that you were busting your buttons? I really wish I could have that minute back again. I also wish you’d been sober, and that we’d been alone. But you know what? I really just want that minute back again. That was one of the best nights of my life, no joke, my first book-signing, and you there – you’d read it – the whole damn thing, and LIKED it, and there you were in the crowd, red-faced and proud. You weren’t perfect, Dad. You stank like booze and you were loud and a little obnoxious. You got drunk at my after party and did one-armed push ups in my kitchen. But you were there, and you were proud, and that mattered to me so much.
Norma gave me your books.
Oh, and about Norma? She is awesome. I know you appreciated her more as you got older and sicker, but I sure as shit hope you told her that you loved her. Because she’s a great lady, and I’m glad I’m getting to know that.
I miss you, Pop, but I’m glad we’re getting to know one another.
Love,
TMac